I'd appreciate all advice on this question....from both males and female (both points of view on this would be great)...
What is the best reaction when a guy says "I love you" to a girl he's been dating for not very long....and the girl really likes the guy, but isn't sure that she's ready to say the big "L" word yet? The girl doesn't want to hurt the guys feelings, or put him off....but she also doesn't want to say "love" without meaning it.....what's the best way to deal with this? Thanks in advance for the advice!
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08-07-05, 01:35 AM #1
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New relationship question...
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08-07-05, 01:37 AM #2
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Alighty, Jebby.
Is this that guy who was your friend's ex or a new guy?"Ogres are like onions."
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08-07-05, 01:37 AM #3
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Why on earth are you posting photos of your horse's ... whatever the **** that was?
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08-07-05, 01:38 AM #4
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oh yeah, say it the way you wrote it here.
"Ogres are like onions."
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08-07-05, 01:39 AM #5
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Originally Posted by artyemi
New guy....the other guy has been long forgotten
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08-07-05, 01:40 AM #6
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Ummm....that's my signature, just to share them if people feel like looking..... Originally Posted by shh!
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08-07-05, 01:41 AM #7
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That's a short period. Umm. But yes, I stand by what I said here. If that's the way you feel towards him, then, that's the way you should say it. Focus on the good point (whatever it is.) Originally Posted by Jeblina
New guy....the other guy has been long forgotten"Ogres are like onions."
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08-07-05, 01:45 AM #8
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Originally Posted by artyemi
Yes, I know it hasn't been very long...but I just have a feeling that "it" will be said by him before I feel the same way....I like the guy....but not like that yet.......this is a question that I've always wondered about......I always worry about hurting the guys' feelings, or embarassing him.....especially after they work up the nerve to say it....Negative Ghost Rider...the pattern is full.
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08-07-05, 01:46 AM #9
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Well it would be worse if you lied and said it without meaning it you know? Just point that out to him if it does happen. At least you're being honest.
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08-07-05, 01:56 AM #10
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Right, but you also don't want to lie to them. Honesty is one of the foundation of a good relationship. Originally Posted by Jeblina
"Ogres are like onions."
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08-07-05, 01:59 AM #11
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So saying something along the lines of, "I really like you...I also don't want to rush things too fast yet.......(insert any suggestions here)" wouldn't be too crushing then? Originally Posted by artyemi
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08-07-05, 02:05 AM #12
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"I really like you" sounds good.
"isn't sure that she's ready to say the big "L" word yet"
"doesn't want to say "love" without meaning it"
I don't know about the rushing things part, since it doesn't have anything to do with your feeelings. Unless, you really don't want to be rushing things."Ogres are like onions."
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08-07-05, 02:12 AM #13
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Thanks!!! Those are great....I appreciate the input! Hopefully I won't have to use that anytime soon....but now I'm prepared!!! Originally Posted by artyemi
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You are who you are. If you are not ready for the big "L" word. Then let him know. If it happens it happens. If he gets pissed then he isn't paying attention or wanting to understand your feelings. If he is understanding then he will also not have a problem waiting for it. But none the less don't lie to him. Lie once and it will be in the back of his mind for a long time during your relationship.
Experience is never gained until just after you needed it.
Luck - That is where opprotunity meets preperation.
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Well now those pics are gone, so no one will know what I was talking about. Originally Posted by Jeblina
Oh, well. I agree with the advice already given you.
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