Intimacy

[SDJ]

Hello this is my first posting on here, Ii am looking for advice regarding male sexual issues, to cut a long story short married 25 years fantastic sex life at the start for a good many years. 11years ago i was seriously injured in a road traffic accident and for three years sex of any kind was out of the question. But now i am having urges and needs that my wife is not interested in, in any shape or form, 7 years since we had any sexual contact and when i have brought the subject up she says if I want it then I have to go ut and pay someone for it, shes not interested in me but has a wide selection of sex toys that i know she uses pretty much daily.

I obviously am not going out to pay for it as I still love my wife, what on earth would you suggest I do?

[GLYC]

Use good communication.

Relationships are also about giving, compromising and meeting another persons needs.
You communicate your needs in a loving and mature way.

Her response? The comment about telling you to go pay for it, that's rude.
That would honestly make me a little mad. Not because it's a denial, but it's a rude way of saying things.

Sex is important to you, and I think rightfully so. Intimacy is part of love.

If I can't be intimate with someone, literally ever, I wouldn't be interested.

For me, that's a necessity.

Are you still courting her? Still doing fun things together, having fun, making her feel special at times?