She keeps denying about us to her friends. It hurts

[lucianz33]

I’m really hurting right now because my girlfriend still keeps me and our relationship as a secret to her friends. We agreed before to keep our relationship in the down low until we’ve gotten to know each other better. We know people are really quick to judge once they know that you guys met in some dating tours or the likes. Somehow, this agreement turned into keeping us a secret. People are asking her about us and she continues to deny that we’re together. Is she ashamed of me? Of us? Is she cheating? I honestly feel like a dirty secret and it really sucks.

[TheEvilJester]

How long have you two been together? And are you officially boyfriend and girlfriend/officially exclusive, or are you really in the "just sort of dating" phase? Because I think that makes a big difference. If you two are really just dating and aren't yet decided that you are boyfriend and girlfriend then I don't think it is as big a deal. If/when you two are serious, though, that would be a problem in my personal opinion. You are not her dirty little secret, you are supposed to be her partner. She should be happy and excited to share you with those you love. So, IF you two have been together long enough to be serious, that would be a huge problem for me too where I in your situation.