Hi Ladies,
I always like to get a female perspective on any relationship issues.
I split up with my ex girlfriend over 6 months ago and had been moving on with my life and doing good in all aspects, importantly I was meeting other women and enjoying life without the pressure of commitment.
Just last week I was contacted by her and she tells me she has missed me very much. Of course I still have a soft spot for her. The problem is she is the kind of woman that is consistently dishonest.
I know that the main reason women lie to their partners is to protect their feelings, this girl has just gone too far now, although we get along very well there are major issues from the past. Also she has had inappropriate situations in her job, and has been both harassed and assaulted by men at work. She is attractive, but I cant help thinking that the problem is she does not have enough self respect, this is why she allows men to cross the line into harassing her. Annoyingly, she remains friends with most of the men who have acted inappropriately to her, therefore communicating that it is ok to treat her disrespectfully. Obviously this drove me nuts in the past and was a factor which lead to me ending things.
On top of all the work drama, there are two male friends of hers, both of them are people she has had feelings for in the past (only one she admits to), and actually in both cases she was "friendzoned", but due to her low self-worth she has remained in contact! I found out before I split from her that she had met both of these men behind my back, I was told they were only lunch dates and made to feel like I was wrong to care. However to me it seemed extremely inappropriate that she would meet both of those men, and deceive me about it also.
I know its the 21st century, but I want your opinion ladies: Is that appropriate behaviour????
Thanks,
Italogent