Am I tired of waiting or just being to rush? Pls. Help.:(

[jasmine08]

Hi just want to share my current situation right now coz it really bothers me alot. To the point that whenever Im alone I always think of this situation and really cry.

Weve been couple for 3 yrs now. Hes realy nice guy. Responsible hardworking . We often see each other like 4 times a week (we also see each other every weekend like ssturdays and sunday always). He also has his house living alone. Because his parents give it to him. I also visit him as always as i want. I also sleep over at his house since his living alone, i just lied to my parents that i cant come home due to work,.if not sleep over i spent him friday night like i go home around 2am. Really tired to drive home around 2 am just to be with him. (to be honest im really tired of this routine) .Actually our relatoinship is smooth as if nothing lacks. We talk about everything people gadgets about friends about past, about life and etc. But there is one thing we cant talk about. And this is our future. About settling down / about marriage


Right now i dont know what to feel i feel so tired that doesnt want to put an effort on our relationship coz i feel that he doesnt have plan at all.
Sometimes when our topic seem to go on marriage topic. His joking around or seem to have a lot of reasons. (like this and like that / he also said that at this age we always want to have our wants) by the way hes 28 and im 23. I mean im not saying that we will get married as soon as possible, but i think we can talk about or just discuss those matter. Sometimes i feel im in a relationship with no purpose.
I guess relatioship with no purpose is just flirting around. Im tired of flirting,joking and all ybose sorts of playing games inlove.where not getting any younger. . But right now i feel that he doesnt have plan at all. He has his want and that is his priority right now. What should i do?
Will i continue this relationship and wait for the right time when he will say those words?
Or am i just rush or over thinking?
To be honest im really tired. I cry alone like almost everyday.
I hope some1 could give me a good advice..

Thank you

[bunnyhabit]

he has no plans to change relationship as perfect in his lifestyle. why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free? unless you give him an ultimation like marry me or we are over he will stablize on your current loose arrangement. no pluses for him to up the game.

[Wakeup]

I cry alone like almost everyday.

Funny, you just said you spend four days a week with him and all weekend so I'd say you're hardly "alone."

You're only 23 but if you are insistent on wanting to be married or move your relationship forward (living together?) then why not just tell him how you would like to see your relationship advance and then ask him if he has the same goal and if he doesn't, then it's time to move on. If he does but doesn't have the same time-line then maybe you will be able to continue on as is at least knowing that you have the same dating goal.