Does this sound like I was Sexually Harassed?

[holahaysus]

I used to work in a business with this married father 17.5 years older than me. I was 18 and he was 36 when I joined the team.

He would play 'footsie' with me under the table and wink. He would bend down and rub my leg. He shaved his beard and said 'Do you fancy me now that I look 10 years younger?'. He rubbed my back along my bra strap and kept his hand there for a few seconds as he walked past me. He would hold my arm all the time, grab my hand and hold it, touch my shoulders, my thighs, my hair- he even used to brush off my BREASTS . I remember walking in to work and he appeared out of nowhere wolf whistling at me in the car park.

He would talk about sex constantly- especially teenage sex, threesomes, losing virginity, sex jokes etc. He once said he wanted 'Fresh Cherry' and 'Young Breasts'. He asked me if I was a virgin. One morning he said to me 'I have a tube filled with cream that I want you to suck out' & he smirked and said 'I can't show you here' winking. He called me a 'Hot 19 year old' once in front of all my colleagues.

I was flattered at the time that someone older was paying attention to me but he ruined me. I went back to college since but ever since leaving the Co. I have gained weight and cut my hair and feel unattractive. I feel like he emotionally abused me as he was extremely cruel and verbally abusive to me at times. Now I feel very angry and taken advantage of. He has wrecked my self-esteem. Opinions?

[tina77]

oh that's sad

[bunnyhabit]

of course it was sexual harassment many times over. you should sue him for emotional compensation if you can prove he really did these actions. [URL=http://www.loveforum.net/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=MeToo]#MeToo[/URL]

[DalM0m]

Yes it was harassment. Talk to a counselor about how to get your power / self esteem back. Going forward, understand that even if a guy is your boss you always have the right to say NO, don't touch me!

Don't bother trying to sue. You left the company voluntarily to go back to school. You weren't fired. You probably don't have a case. Even if you are emotionally distraught over this, you still don't fit the criteria for liability

[Old Guy]

I'd give this a Yup, you nailed it.