being nice generally is a bad thing (not always but most of the time)
you can be pleasant and altruitive and polite, curteous and respectful
but being nice is different from those things and often not the good way to go.
pretending you are not interested because you know them not to be is nice
buying them roses for a date is nice
not pushing them ever to do anything is nice
giving away free money is nice
not telling someone of if he behaves shit is nice.
but usually you dont achieve anything positive by being nice. on the contrary. (and not even for the persons you deal with)
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.