No response to my "I love you"?

[Caramelpopcorn]

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now (I'm 29, he's 32) and it's been great. He's consistent and trustworthy. He's handled me at my anxious and insecure times due to my past issues (I got out of an abusive marriage). He told me he isn't letting me go cause I'm worth it.

We were video chatting today as we live a few hours from each other and like our usual he closes his eyes while on the bed and I'll whisper things and he'll smile and it's usually so sweet.

So today I decided I'll just tell him I love him, I figure 5 months is a good time to say it and I've been wanting to scream it for months. So I told him close your eyes and he did as we usually do and I whispered "I love you."

I got nothing. He kept his eyes closed and said nothing. I can't be sure he heard me but I'm like 90% sure he did cause he usually hears whatever I whisper and he has headphones on, and if he didn't he'd have asked what did you say?

Anyway I think I saw him get red and a little awkward? He said he needs to call his buddy so they'd go workout and I tried to act as normal as I could.

It's just really odd that he'd pretend like he didn't even hear it? What do I do now? Say it again? Ask if he's heard me? Let it go and pretend like I didn't say it? Pack my stuff and move to Mexico? Was he just shell shocked?

Honestly I'm not upset that I didn't hear I love you back, but it's like it wasn't even acknowledged!?

I've asked this on the general forum, but I thought hearing from other men could help more.

[madotnw_nihs]

I think 5 months is plenty long enough to say it if you love him. I would just say it again but make sure it's in the daytime and he is wide awake. =) Maybe he is super romantic and wants you to say it again. Anyway, lets not guess whether he heard it or not and why there was no response.

[Caramelpopcorn]

Thank you for your reply! I appreciate it!

I guess I'm just scared cause I do think he heard it, if I say it again I may just make him even more uncomfortable or pressured.

He's talked about the future with me, like getting married, kids, buying a house, where we would live. So is it crazy for me to think maybe he loves me too?

[madotnw_nihs]

nah, he most likely loves you. Some guys are just terrible at saying "I love you". Let us know how it goes. Good Luck.

[GLYC]

I agree with Madot. I wouldnt worry about it. Sounds like everything is going good.
He probably just didn't know how to react. Guys aren't always the best at showing their feelings.

[Caramelpopcorn]

So that silence isn't "Mmm no thanks!"???

The silence is what shocked me honestly, not the fact that he didn't say he loves me too.