Should I wait for her or forget her completely

[Velvet007]

Hi, I met such a lovely lady on a dating site,near me back in August 2016,
Our first meeting was such a simple affair,we grab a coffee,sat by a lake and just chatted for 4 hours , it was so lovely.
We saw each other every other weekend,chatted on the phone 4 or 5 nights a week for hours, I got to learn from her opening up that she was in a relationship for 18 years with a physically abusive man,who had sever insecurity problems and didn't trust her.
I have always treated her with respect, and have never pushed her on subjects she didn't want to continue talking about.
Everything was going really well,she asked me if I would go to her works Christmas dinner with her and spend time with her and her family over Christmas.
The weekends we never saw each other she would visit her 35 year old son,who lived alone and has suffered from depression,plus in November she had two court cases with her ex over the settlement agreement,she lost weight,became very anxious but I was always there for her to give her support.
Week running up to her works dinner,she asked me if I would mind her son going with her to the dinner with her as it might do him good,I didn't have to think twice and said it was a good ideal,well that night they had a big argument and things went downhill from there.
Christmas was cancelled ,we chatted less and she announced in early Jan that we should not contact each other for a while so she could heal herself and her son,which I agreed to.
For3 weeks I stopped contact, sent her a text,hoping she was well, she phoned me said we were done, she couldn't deal with my insecuritys .....I was flabbergasted , only thing I could possibly associate this accusation was I asked her once why she had not come off the dating site,which I had done.
Valentine's Day came and I cancelled the flowers I had pre ordered as I thought it not a good idea to put pressure on things,two days later she sent me a photo of her out with her son, she looked beautiful, she text New beginning ,new me with it.....I replied ,lovely to see you happy you look radient.
Well we text a few messages,then she announced don't get in touch with me again or I will block you.
So that night on Facebook I sent her one last message......thinking it would help the situation I stated that I admitted to having insecurity problems,which I don't and she would not hear from me for a month or so so I could sort my problems out and come back as the man she could respect and trust again.
I told her that I would send her Birthday wishes in early March,if it was ok to do so.....well she read that message within minutes of me sending it.........she never said No to me wishing her a happy birthday,didn't reply at all.
Now,she was terribly hurt,mentally and physically by her ex, I have never pushed our relationship,we hold hands and hug but never been further .
I know she is very guarded about letting her feelings show as she doesn't want to get hurt again....I love this woman with all my heart and would never hurt her but I'm hurting so much myself right now.
I will not contact her apart from sending a Birthday bouquet ,wishing her a lovely day......I know she really cares for me but I'm at a lose as to what to do to get our relationship back on track before all this came up.

[Hooo!]

this is a doublepost thread.
see here
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and besides: noone can make that decision for you.
you will have to make up your own mind.

Facts you have: she is totally nuts. She has a abusive behaviour (want you and push you away hard). she cuts contact totally. She has a lot to deal with privately
You have not written any positive facts i could list.

What is there that speaks for you to wait for her and pursue her?
What is there that speaks for you to go different ways and pursue other ladies who actually want you in their lifes?

make a list. Post it.