Why do we date A-Holes and Not Good Guys?

[melancholia]

It means exactly what I just said:

love yourself first. Then you won't fall for assholes.

[Lilly328]

Someone who is self absorbed wouldn't get it.

[lightstar]

I never understood that love yourself thing, what does that even mean?

It is about respecting yourself and expecting to be treated right. Not allowing someone to walk all over you

[pro100pk2]

Love is

[SuperHappyTime1]

It is about respecting yourself and expecting to be treated right. Not allowing someone to walk all over you

And yet, you prefer assholes who walk all over you instead of us nice guys who want to lick the footprints you leave, when we really want to lick your feet (creepy, but its the point).

[fearoflove]

This really smart man I know explained it to me a few hundred times...it shows dominance, being the "alpha male". Women like to be shown "who is boss." It sounds dumb, but I can see a million examples all around me. If you have this super nice guy, one who treats you like a princess, 99.9% of women are going to take him for granted, push him around, and eventually lose respect for this push-over. Once you lose respect...the relationship is doomed, hence why we end up with assholes who pretended to be nice guys in the beginning and then do things just to piss you off and turn around and say, "Am I nice now?"

Assholes are not respectable at all. They are the ones who abuse women, take advantage of the weak, and are self-centred. Women who like assholes are misguided and have no idea what a respectable man is.