took gf for granted. Now she left

[jimmy9092]

Been going out a year. Distance was in issue in our relationship. We live 2 hrs away. She wanted me to move to her.

But I think the real reason she left is that during the last 2 months of our relationship i neglected her. I'm not sure why I did this. I can think of like four instances where during the last month where I didn't do things that I used to do naturally for her. One morning last week before work she wanted to be intimate. I said I didn't have time. She replied that I used to always make time. The fact is I did have time and for some reason I said no. This wasn't the first time that she recently complained about sex. She said a few weeks ago that it sometimes seemed like a chore for me.

She broke up with me and picked up all her things. She said she's sorry for hurting me. The day after she broke up with me she texted that she cares and misses me.

I want to apologize but is it better to give it some time?

We were in a very serious relationship. We talked about marriage and she said she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.

[pcmaster]

It takes about year to get to know the person. Honeymoon is over by then, hormones come down and true colors are showing. Maybe you just showed her who you really are.

You really get to know person only after breakup. If you want to apologize then dont wait. Do it while its actual.

[nheeya]

if you truly love her, u will do everything for her.

[foxtopus]

I think if you feel you need to apologize, then do so. But maybe you need time to think about why you were neglecting her. I don't necessarily agree with "If you truly lover her you will do everything for her". Sometimes we just go through these phases.
Think about what led you to treating her this way? Do you still feel you want the serious relationship with her? You talked about getting married, do you want to marry her still?

It sounds like she loves you but doesn't want to be "set aside" so to speak. If you still love her and want what she wants, then you need to tell her and make some changes.