Need blow job/ hand job advice

[CocoInTokyo]

So this is totally embarrassing. I've had a lot of experience before, and I've always been told that I'm great in bed. I've made men come from blow jobs who have never been able to come from one before. But my boyfriend, who is absolutely amazing, can never come. And he says it's just me. I've tried watching instructional videos at his request and asking him questions about what he likes and doesn't like and trying new things, and I suppose I've gotten better. Recently he keeps saying its's almost good. Which is kind of heart breaking. Always just as he's about to come suddenly something goes wrong. Like whatever I'm doing that was right before is now too hard or not hard enough. Or he'll ask me to move my hands in a way that he didn't like just a couple minutes or even seconds earlier which is confusing. But even though it seems that way to me, he's told me about other girls he's been with who were able to make him feel amazing and that really hurt to hear because I know that it's completely me who is the problem. I don't want to hurt him or frustrate him, and it's starting to really bother me. I've never had a problem making people feel good before and it's kind of devastating that I can't give him what he gives me. I'm even worried he'll want to leave me for some other girl if I'm as terrible as it feels I am. I'm starting to doubt everyone who has ever praised my performance, and that's no small number of people. I know that everyone is different, but I guess I'm desperate for any sort of advice at all. Soooo yeah. Help a girl out.

[Wakeup]

Tell him that you'll try harder when he can show you that he can blow himself.

[JHova1378]

Sorry to say this, but this guy seems a bit off. He should be delighted that you even GIVE him blowjobs, as some girls will refuse to do it!

If you have made other men cum before, I wouldn't really go too crazy on changing your techniques. Maybe try to spice it up a bit with some dirty talk or gagging, or something...

[smarta$$]

I think your man is having some performance issues, and rather than man up and take responsibility, he is blaming you.

How old is he? Does he have a difficult time ejaculating when inside you? (Does it take a long time?) Does he take any medication or have blood pressure/diabetes/any other medical conditions? Does he drink a lot or take any street drugs? Does he watch a lot of porn?

[CocoInTokyo]

Thanks for the laugh!

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I think giving blowjobs is more of a standard in Japan than it is overseas. In all of my experiences here people seemed to take them as a given, whereas other Americans and foreign people seem to think of blowjobs as more "special" for lack of a better word. But thank you for the advice!

[smarta$$]

Americans and foreign people seem to think of blowjobs as more "special" for lack of a better word. But thank you for the advice!

Yeah, that's not it. It's pretty standard in my world. Sex 101.

[CrasherRob8]

Umm unless there's some psychological issue that he has, it's not hard to make a guy cum.

Let me ask you this, does he masturbate a lot or watch porn a lot?

[melancholia]

It shouldn't be difficult to make a guy cum from oral, but not all guys enjoy it the same way. I know guys who prefer it as foreplay, but take foreverrrrrr to orgasm from straight oral. Have you tried using it as a precursor to sex and trying other things to get him off instead? Or does he just expect you to blow him until he cums every time? I'm also confused as to why he is being such a d*ck about it (for lack of a better word). He should be far more compassionate and kind to you, since sex is such an intimate thing between a couple. It is traumatizing when the person you are hooking up with basically tells you, you aren't pleasing them. Especially when you seem to be trying different things to please him. The problem is not with you, the problem is with your partner's lack of ability to properly communicate with you about what he likes and doesn't like in bed.