Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
Well, at this point my question would be why venture to get over him? At least at this stage. From what you've shared with us, it sounds like you've never yet bothered to take the chance to talk to him more. Don't get me wrong, I of all people know how hard that can be. If you are shy, it can feel darn near impossible. I have the exact same problem trying to get myself to talk to women if/when I have a crush.
I also know that, traditionally, the guy tends to make the first move. In this case, though, he hasn't. Does that mean he's not interested in you? It may, but it also may not. Maybe the thought of asking you out just never crossed his mind. So, why don't you try talking to him a little more? I know that is hard to do for us shy folks, but there's no other way you will get a feel for whether or not he seems to enjoy your company.
If things go well enough, you may even consider asking him out yourself. Maybe he'll say yes, maybe he'll say no, but either way at least you will know. Take it from a guy who has always been too shy in the past to take that chance. (The sucky thing is I feel different these days, like I finally could make myself go for it.... but these days I don't really have any "prospects" so to speak.) You will regret it much more never taking a chance than you would if you take that chance and get rejected.
Yes, rejection will suck, yes it will hurt, but in the end you will only be stronger for it. You will have finally taken a chance, and it will be easier and easier to do.
But, to answer your actual question, unfortunately time and distance is all that will really help you to get over somebody. I hope you are able to give yourself a chance, but if you either never bring yourself to do so, or you do and it doesn't go well, all that will really heal you is time and distance. In time, your feelings for him will fade, and you'll notice somebody else. Trust me, I would understand if you cannot bring yourself to talk to him. If you just find it too daunting. I hope you can find it in yourself to give it a shot, but if not there is no judgment on my part.
I've lived my whole life with a terrible combination. I'm an extremely romantic guy (believing in true love, wanting to find my special gal, all that stuff), but too damn shy to ever take a chance. It seems I always have a crush on some girl (other than when I actually am in a relationship, in which case I'm a one woman guy), yet I've always been too shy to do anything about it. It isn't easy, but I am just really starting to get over that now. So, it CAN be done. Good luck to you either way.