You've given us nothing to go on - how can we begin to guess what's coming?
Perhaps you could describe what you mean by her being a bit "mental". And an explanation of what you interpret as her giving "signals" would be helpful. And how do you know "for a fact" that her dad dying when she was young contributed to her being a stripper now?
Are you paying for her time when she sees you outside of the club?
And of course she's going to be giving VIP services and lap dances each time you come in. It's her job!!! If you can't cope with that, then don't date her.
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hmmm....I've noticed that in your various posts you've never once responded to people who take time out to help you. Perhaps you just want to waste our time.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.