Is this guy at the gym into me? Is he playing games or flirting?

[LaBoheme94]

I've got this enormous crush on a guy at my gym. Since day one we've been meeting eyes. It's only been about a a week and a half since I changed me schedule & noticed him. We are both like 20. I am an attractive women and no, I don't show skin at the gym. Idk why, but this guy has me going mad. It's so weird but I think about a guy (who I have never spoken to before) 24/7.


On Tuesday I was on a treadmill &he was walking around doing weights like he always does. That's when we usually lock eyes in the mirrors. I then moved to the bike, & a few minutes later he went on this elliptical ive never seen him use before. It was the one after the one next to mine & we were facing the same way. I left 10 mins later bc I was so nervous... But I kept stealing looks at him, and our eyes met a few times.

Today he went on that machine over by mine again. We didn't make much eye contact but I was looking away most of the time. Then he got off his machine to go, & a few moments later I did the same to see if at the front he would talk to me. I walked up to him, grabbed stuff in my cubby and walked past him & I don't remember, but I may have muttered a friendly excuse me. I got in my car as he got out, I left the lot before him and as I was approaching the stop light right by our gym out of no where he turned off behind me, zoomed out by my right on his motor bike, passed/ cut sharply/weaved in front of me in the same lane...hardly squeezing between me and the curb. I had to brake a bit. There were no cars coming, the light was green, he didn't pass the next car, and I wasn't going slow. What the heck? Did I mess up by not saying hello? I'm so shy and I don't know how to talk to guys at first. I will see him again but I don't know what to do.

[Jffs24]

He could be, same way you are into him -- so who is going to make the first move and talk to the other? Why can't it be you?

[MrChiLambda]

He is 20 years old and probably shy or out to lunch. Flirt with him, all it takes is a smile. You could try talking to him. There is nothing wrong with that.

[basilandthyme]

You simply need to use normal social skills. Choose any or all of the below:

1. Smile at him when you lock eyes.
2. When you walk in, catch his eye and say Hi
3. Go up to him and say "Hi, I've seen you here a few times. My name is X"

Edited to add: his driving in the car park was obnoxious. Doesn't say much for his personality. Decent guys are courteous.

Save my advice for a guy who's worth talking to.