I've been married 13 years and together for 19. We have a 5 and 7 year old and are around 40 yrs old. Before having kids we had a very healthy sex life. In the past 4-5 years that completely tanked. Me having 0 interest in sex with relations happening only once every 2-3 months at best. Until the beginning of this year when I decided to stop oral contraceptives in the hope that the lack of libido was a possible side effect. It worked better than I could imagine. Now I could go every DIY (or more) The problem is I think I'm scaring my husband. There are time he doesn't get me to climax which is frustrating for me and I imagine for him as well. As we approach our anniversary I wanted to introduce some sex toys for the first time in our relationship (something we can both enjoy/share) but I'm afraid he'll be terrified. Any input from a mans perspective?