Do blow jobs really include any blowing?

[shh!]

Looks like Shh! may be jealous hehehe....

Ya think? Cause I was thinking how sad it is that you appear to be so needing of attention that you would post something so intimate in such vivid detail. Maybe your swell boyfriend has been out of town?

Just because some girls have enough sense to know what may turn on a guy, it doesnt mean theyre sluts or have been with many guys..

No, but they MIGHT be considered slutty if they go blabbing about to any Tom, Dick (pardon the pun) or Harry who will listen...

Its called experimenting with the guy youre with. Nothing wrong with it at all .

Yeah, nothing wrong with it at all, as long as that girl doesn't go whining to people about how her boyfriend won't take her to church (because after all, she is SO pious).

Some people just have the ability to use their imagination in bed and it pays off.

And some people have the good sense to know it is definitely NOT lady-like to ... shall we say "kiss-and-tell"? It's in extremely bad taste.

[BlackRose]

try that will a hall in your mouth..

Hahaha... Forgot to mention that. There's another fun thing to try on your men, ladies.

rose, you shall be the next dr. ruth.

dr. rose.

lol... I'll take that as a compliment even though she is a little creepy. lol

[BlackRose]

And some people have the good sense to know it is definitely NOT lady-like to ... shall we say "kiss-and-tell"? It's in extremely bad taste.

May I ask what you are doing at loveforum.net in the sex forum if you think it is wrong to be discussing sex? No offence but your arguement is lacking.

[shh!]

May I ask what you are doing at loveforum.net in the sex forum if you think it is wrong to be discussing sex? No offence but your arguement is lacking.

The original poster is only 17, so I think EXPLICIT detail is obviously inappropriate, particularly when the info given is so clearly lacking in consideration for the possible consequences should the poster follow the advice. I do think it is best for one to make an educated decision about any sexual activity, and that WOULD include suspicious boyfriends and damage to one's reputation, so I think my posts are entirely appropriate. I'm just trying to de-JerrySpringer-ize this thread. By the way, there were one or two additional posters who apparently felt like a line was crossed, only they were forced to remove their posts, so it ain't just me.

As for this being the sex forum, well, I frankly don't even look at which category the posts are from. They all apparently pop up whenever you click on "most recent" posts when you first log in, and all I look at are the titles.

[COAD]

rose, you shall be the next dr. ruth.

dr. rose.

-3 for using Dr. without giving credit to me...
I used Dr. COAD in the past, and its my idea.

[shh!]

Who is winning, COAD? Do you have cumulative scores? :-)

[COAD]

yep... Ofcourse

[misombra]

bah whatever. i'm still in the positive.

[Snipaa]

The original poster is only 17

Your side of the argument is still inadquet. This innocent 17 year old asked about how to give a blow job, so it is obvious she has some sort of idea what a blow job is, otherwise she wouldn't be asking. Still think she's innocent? The description ALovelyLady86 gave is probably nothing compared to the porn she's seen, and hence asking about the technique involved in performing/perfecting it.

Case dismissed!...lol

[shh!]

Actually, no, case is not dismissed. Original poster has another thread asking how to dance provocatively with a boy, so I am seeing a pattern of naivety. If she's asking, I would guess that means she doesn't know, which probably means she hasn't been watching porn. If she has been watching porn, she wouldn't need to ask. As for her level of innocence, well there is a big difference between being aware that people engage in oral sex and knowing how exactly to do it.

Honestly, I'm not sure I understand why my original post is being received as "bad information". Then again, I don't separate sexual activity from the psychological impact it leaves on you. I am guessing that those who object are those too young to fully comprehend that you can't take back mistakes that are made along the way, and it is hard to undo a bad reputation. 17 year old girls should be discovering their sexuality in a more psychologically healthy way than what is being offered here, and I am giving the advice I would hope some RESPONSIBLE ADULT might one day give my daughter (and probably the advice you'd want your daughter to get, too).

[BlackRose]

So what if we are the ones to tell her these things? If we dont tell her, who knows where she will get her info. At least here, there is a good chance for honesty and truth.

[shh!]

Yes, I understand your position, BlackRose, and as I said, it is one thing to offer information. Information is good when it is offered responsibly and considers the age and developemental stage of the person asking the question, and includes possible consequences of that behavior. Is is quite another thing to offer explicit information devoid of consideration of consequences and utterly disregarding the developemental stage of the person asking.

You write, "If we dont tell her, who knows where she will get her info". Well, I am of a a generation where parents barely spoke to their kids about sex at all, and most girls kept their sex lives secret out of fear of looking trashy. Even still, we all managed to figure these things out on our own through the course of normal experimentation with our partners.

I think it is kind of sad that anyone would want to take such an intimate activity - which is meant to bind two people together like no other activity could - and cheapen and degrade and trivialize it by making it seem NORMAL for 17-year-olds to act like porn queens who are experts at providing pleasure to men, but do not require reciprocation. In case you hadn't noticed, no one seems to have considered that she isn't asking how much pleasure should be provided by the guy...

[misombra]

well said. i completely agree.

[BlackRose]

Yes, I understand your position, BlackRose, and as I said, it is one thing to offer information. Information is good when it is offered responsibly and considers the age and developemental stage of the person asking the question, and includes possible consequences of that behavior. Is is quite another thing to offer explicit information devoid of consideration of consequences and utterly disregarding the developemental stage of the person asking.

You write, "If we dont tell her, who knows where she will get her info". Well, I am of a a generation where parents barely spoke to their kids about sex at all, and most girls kept their sex lives secret out of fear of looking trashy. Even still, we all managed to figure these things out on our own through the course of normal experimentation with our partners.

I think it is kind of sad that anyone would want to take such an intimate activity - which is meant to bind two people together like no other activity could - and cheapen and degrade and trivialize it by making it seem NORMAL for 17-year-olds to act like porn queens who are experts at providing pleasure to men, but do not require reciprocation. In case you hadn't noticed, no one seems to have considered that she isn't asking how much pleasure should be provided by the guy...

I definitely see where you are coming from. Trust me. I just think that this is a love forum and people come here and ask questions so they should be provided with answers. I agree that certain things should be censored from people under 18 but I also dont think people should be allowed to sign up here until they are of legal age anyway. That is my opinion though. There are too many 12 year olds asking how to have sex when they should be home playing their video games and watching movies with their friends. It's ok to be curious about sex at 12/13 but you shouldn't be having it. Yet I hear about children as young as 6 and 7 trying to have sex on playgrounds. Younger maybe. I just think that society has gone down hill drastically. Nobody has any morals or standards. But getting back on track here. I think that at least the sex forum should be off limits to people under 18 to avoid problems like this. The kissing and dating forums are generally very innocent so that isn't where the problem lies. We can't watch every kid all the time though. That's the job of parents and parents suck these days too. No parent wants to sit down and talk to their kids about sex so kids just go and do it. They think it makes them kool but what they don't realize is how much they are going to regret it when they are in their 20's and 30's and they have herpes and other STD's that stay with you for life. Eh... I'm going off on a tangent here. There is no talking to these kids so it's better to just give them their info and let them ruin their lives. They are going to do it anyway. *sigh*

[misombra]

i don't think we need to sensor it or not let people under a certain age in. those are the people who need the most information. i think it's our responsibility, particularly the older people in the forum, to give people the entire story, especially if they are very young. that's what is meant by being age appropriate. maybe for someone my age asking for techniques on how to give a good blow job those responses would be called for.